Dear Future

Dear Future

You are bright, you are intelligent, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL
You are the light this world do desperately needs
I implore you to never lose sight if your talents, your goals and most of all your dreams

Dear future,

Embrace who you are in all aspects of life
You were perfectly created to make YOUR light shine bright
No one else can be you and that’s where your beauty begins.
Although you are beautiful on the outside, the real beauty lies within
It lies within your character, your morals, your values, your heart.
Hold these things near and never let them part.

Dear future,

we the present, promise to support your dreams, whatever they may be.
We promise to fill you with love, knowledge and the tools you need to succeed.
We promise to encourage you to win and embrace you at times you do not.
We promise to stand up for you, be good examples and root for you with everything we’ve got.

Dear future,

Take your gifts, your dreams, the lessons and encouragement from the present.
You’re already on the path to succeed, the world is waiting for you to be all that you can be.

Sincerely,
The present

Navigating Wedding Planning During Covid19

Navigating Wedding Planning During Covid19

As we are in the midst of a global pandemic, brides all over are being affected in a different way than others. Weddings and wedding planning have either been postponed, cancelled until future notice or plans have just been halted altogether. As a destination wedding travel adviser, this is all too real for myself as well.

Wedding planning can be stressful enough and adding this on top of it, adds extra mental and emotional stress.To aid in easing some of this stress and and providing some relief, here is a quick guide to navigating wedding planning during these trying times

1.  Talk to your finance. Get a plan in place of what you both decide on. Decide based on what is best for you both.

2. Speak with your vendors, and venue(s). Although everyone is affected, businesses, well good businesses are displaying compassion, and flexibility with wedding postponements. These should be your first point of contact to evaluate and reschedule things.

3. Communicate with your guests. This is where a wedding planner or travel adviser would be handy. Guests will be asking you many questions, so its good to reach out to them as a whole before they all start reaching out to you individually

4.  If you’re wedding is a couple of months from now, look at the possibility of a rain date. Although we hope for life to be back to normal in a few months, we just don’t know. Having a tentative postponement date already lined up, can ease some stress of having to postpone it.  

5. If you have to cancel to regroup from personal loss, or rescheduling issues. It is OK! Again, everyone is going through this together and will be understandable.

6. Take a self-care day to to get your thoughts and emotions together. Making changes and postponing one of the most important days in your life, can take a toll on you. It’s important to rejuvenate yourself and take care of mental and emotional health at this time.

7. If your wedding is late 2020 or next year, if you can, still move through planning as much as possible. You’ll want to get as much locked in as possible.

8. Speak to your bridal party so they are prepared for updated information/changes so that they can make any necessary adjustments in their lives.

9. Finally, if you’ve been directly affected by the virus whether its financially or physically, just remember there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Cherish the love you have in these times and know your special day will happen at the end of this tunnel!

 

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To Destination Wedding or Not

To Destination Wedding or Not

Destination Weddings are becoming more frequent among weddings. They can save money due to a lesser guest count, they can combine the wedding honeymoon in one planning aspect, provide your guests with a mini vacation, make for a beautiful backdrop and scenic atmosphere for a wedding and more.

When considering a destination wedding for your wedding, take these five things into consideration:

1. Budget– whether you have a destination wedding, creating a budget is the first and most important thing to establish.This will be your guiding light planning your wedding.

2. Location, Location, Location! – What do you want the atmosphere to be?  The tropical environment is popular, but you can want a European location, a jungle or rain forest atmosphere for the destination of your wedding. Location is important.

 

3. People – are the people you and your groom want there the most, be able to travel to your destination of choice. (grandparents, older family members)

 

4. You’ll need help – Destination weddings have additional arrangements that need to be made. We advise hiring a wedding planner AND travel professional. Most resorts have onsite wedding planners to fill in all the details, while your travel professional will take care of the room and in some cases flights, ground transportation, travel insurance, passport information, activities and excursions.

 

5. Packages – Compare wedding packages. This will make it easier for you to decide what works for your wedding vision and your budget.

 

*Bonus – Consider if you and your finance want to spend your honeymoon in the same destination. Your resort of choice will most likely have a honeymoon incentives such as free nights upgrades.

 

Whatever you decide make sure a destination wedding fits your vision, budget and accommodates the must have guests.

 

 

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Budgeting for your Wedding

Budgeting for your Wedding

Its a general consensus that weddings can be expensive! Although they do not have to be. Everyone’s definition of expensive or low cost is different but for you and your finance, the definition has to be the same, at least for the wedding.
To control and keep things organized, you both NEED to sit and create a budget.

Budgeting is very important for your wedding. You want to be very sure that you have enough money to make this a special occasion and not run up huge bills that will be hard for you and your finance to manage.

There should be a total budget that breaks down into the various categories.  List your expenses to estimate better. Your biggest expenses will directly be linked to the number of guests that will be attending such as the venue, catering, and wedding cake provider. Thus creating a total max amount of guests you wish to attend and deciding on the max per person cost you and our finance can afford is crucial.

Next you’ll want to list all of your other expenses and when I say all, I mean ALL. Down to the smallest item you need to purchase, should be included on your list. This will be your guide to staying on track with the total budget.

Now, your budget should be realistic. You may want to pay $200 for flower arrangements but that might not, well that is not realistic unless someone you know is giving you a huge discount. Do some research in regards to how much bakers, dj’s , caterers, venue’s etc are in your area. Decide on an budget for each service and shop around when deciding on who you’re actually going to go with. Facebook bridal groups and bridal expos are a great resource for finding wedding vendors.

At some point during the planning, you may find yourself switching the budget around. Some couples will value putting more money into one service than the other or find a less expensive service for a certain aspect of the wedding which allows them to either spend the extra money in another area or count it as a savings.

With all the moving parts and the many costs, having a budget an sticking to it will save you stress down the road, and you definitely want that because wedding planning can be a looooong road.

I find using excel is a great tool for creating a budget and is easy to make changes to, and can recalculate columns and rows easily. Having a ready-made wedding binder can also help because they typically have the expense categories already laid out for you which lessens the change of forgetting to add something to the list.

Happy Wedding Panning!

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Choosing your Bridesmaids

Choosing your Bridesmaids

How to choose your bridesmaids

Choosing your Bridesmaids is a delicate task and should take a variety of things into consideration. Let’s take a look at a couple of them.

One of the most important things to consider when you choosing your bridesmaids is where they are in life currently. You will need responsible, dependable bridesmaids in your bridal party. Consider their mental and emotional state. If one of your friends is in a tumultuous relationship, that might affect her ability to fulfill her duties whether it be time wise or emotional.  Or if a friend is battling a health issue, physical or mental, asking them to be apart of your wedding may not be the best thing to do. You need bridesmaid who are in stable places in life. If you know a friend that is irresponsible with money or that never seems to have the finances for activities or outings, committing financially to a wedding will be hard for her. Or if someone you are considering is always hopping from job to job, or always moving, and just never seems to be stable, she may not be a good fit for your bridal party. On the other side of things, if a potential bridesmaid is preparing to move, having a baby, getting married or in the midst of any major life changing event, she may not be able to fully commit to being apart of the bridal party due to the transition(s) in her life.

Next, take into consideration their personality, habits and traits. Let’s face it, we all have friends and family who are best suited for certain things. The friend  that always flakes out on plans or the friend that is ALWAYS late may cause issues at some point during planning or on wedding day. Look at a history of their habits. This may sound like a bit much but trust me, I’ve seen bridal parties decline or go left when someone or some people did not commit or weren’t able to fulfill their bridesmaids duties. I’ve heard brides admit that they should have had the person be a guest but because they were really close to the person they asked them to be a bridesmaid. If you have that friend that is overly confrontational or always has some type of drama in their lives, take those things into consideration.

Lastly, being a bridesmaid has its general duties such as purchasing a dress and shoes, as well as throwing a bachelorette and bridal shower. Consider the duties you’ll be giving or assigning your bridesmaids, consider the time and financial obligations your bridesmaids will need to commit to. One person may be able financially responsible and able to commit in that aspect, but they may not be able to commit to the time aspect for all events/appointments leading up to the wedding.

 

These are just a couple of things to really think about before asking friends or family to be a bridesmaid. It will be beneficial to both yourself and to the girls you’ll be asking. You want to choose bridesmaids who you are confident will be able to support you, help you and fulfill their roles as bridesmaids. You also don’t want to make a friend or family member feel pressured to say yes, if you know they’re currently not in the best place in life.

Along the lines, things can change and life happens but taking these things into consideration from the beginning, may very well save you stress and save a friendship.

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